Emotional Wellness

Are you living with emotional inflammation? I’m not talking about the inflammation comes from eating inflammatory foods like gluten, dairy and sugar. We already know these can cause long-term inflammation linked to chronic disease. I’m talking about the daily inflammation that causes anxiety, despair and depression. The unhealthy state coined ‘emotional inflammation’ by psychiatrist Dr. Lise Van Susteren and writer Stacey Colino that stems from living in today’s overwhelming, tumultuous world. It's time to change up the menu. Catching up on overnight messages for breakfast; consuming excess social media for lunch and...

Are you losing your personal power? Your daily marathons with long to-do lists and limited resources can give you a sense of power. Leading teams/business units through crisis can add to your power range. But, dealing with a difficult person can diminish your personal power. Why? Dealing with difficult people taps into what David Rock defines as 'Relatedness' in his brain-based SCARF model. Relatedness is one of five social domains that are either primary rewards or threats to your brain, so you open up or shut down to people and situations. Relatedness is about...

“Do I really want to be doing this for the rest of my life?”, “Is this really worth all the personal sacrifices I’m making?” When you’re in your 30's and maybe 40's, there's a lot to keep you going - maybe it’s working for a specific company, or getting a promotion or a pay increase. But as you get older, you may question your way of living and working; your personal values call for attention, and you realise the clock is ticking. This post is dedicated to the late Sir Ken Robinson...

Do you remember Groundhog Day? The movie in which every day starts and ends the same way. Our lives have been impacted since February; it's now August. Do you feel like every day is the same? Is it really, though? As with any coaching engagement, you have two main journeys that happen in parallel but not necessarily simultaneously. 💡The practical achieving goals journey - the skills you’ve developed and the actions you’ve taken to reach your goals. Achieving goals is rewarding and pays off for all the hard work you've put in. 💡The personal growth...

2020 is a year of learning new ways of working, parenting, recharging… and communicating. Pre-Covid, we relied on verbal and non-verbal forms of communication to determine someone's meaning. A warm smile, compressed lips…  these were once powerful ways to make sense of what a person really thought or felt. But, in our masked-faced reality, we are now more dependent on the eyes - ‘the visual gateway to the world around us’, according to Joe Navarro, a former FBI agent and body language expert. Our eyes show love and compassion as well as fear...

Intuition - one of the greatest gifts you have to guide you in times of doubt and uncertainty. Arianna Huffington describes it as a hunch: the inkling that your inner voice is telling you to do or step away from something. Our ancestors used it to survive; can you access your intuition too? Imagine you have antennas that pick up on frequencies within the environment and from people. It picks up on people's intentions and emotions too. But there are other frequencies causing interference: digital devices, the internet, TV and more....

What do you do when you have an AHA moment? That lightbulb moment – the one that brings clarity to a confusing situation. The International Coach Federation calls this moment ‘Evokes Awareness’. It’s a core competency of coaching that  - through the use of powerful questioning, silence, metaphor or analogy – facilitates client insight and learning. When you have your Aha moment, do you Use it to create change where needed, or Retreat because you’re not ready for change? More than often I see resistance and retreat rather than readiness for change....

Did you know that the fear of coronavirus is changing our psychology? It's driving us to be more conformist and tribalistic; our moral judgements are becoming harsher and our social attitudes more conservative. We’re afraid, so we’re holding on to what we know to survive. We don’t have to let fear define us! We can't control what’s going on around us, but we can control what’s going on within us. This is where you hold the power. Inspired by Marie Kondo's art of decluttering, think “your mind is like your house”. YOU decide what goes in. Products, services, people, news...

I've been asking clients to share how they’ve been feeling as Hong Kong navigates a third wave of Covid19. Typically, the responses have been anxiety, concern, anger, fear and a sense of defeat. They ask me what to do, how to be optimistic, ditch the negativity and keep on going. In her book Emotional Wisdom, Lynn Macwhinnie says every emotion presents a fork in the road and - consciously or not - we choose the path we take. For example, we may select anger and disappointment, or joy and courage. By default,...

When I ask my clients what their mind practice is, they often stare back at me puzzled. We often focus on body practices for physica lhealth - the gym, swimming, and more. Body practices keep our body healthy, muscles toned, cardiovascular system strong and they pump in feel-good hormones. But, what about mind practices for mental health? The mind body connection is real. One cannot be strong, healthy and resilient without the other. If your mind is caught up in daily stories, the circle of concern, and rumination, you embark in strong emotional...